For many couples, the issue of anal sex becomes a sore point in a relationship: the man wants it, but the woman resists. She may be hurt, scared, ashamed – all feelings and sensations are natural in unconventional forms of sexual intimacy. He just wants to, and the overwhelming desire blows his mind! Why do men want anal sex, and why do they insist on it, knowing that the beloved is in pain? Sadism or indifference? Influenced by pornography and dorky friends?
Let’s find out if all men want to have anal sex, why these thoughts arise even in the presence of variety in bed. And most importantly – how a girl behave if a guy is addicted to love in the ass, and now only asks her. The intimate element is very important in family life and in gender relations, that is why choosing the right partner for your preferences is not about frying meatballs!
Why a man wants anal sex
Almost every man has a desire for anal sex. Some of them voice their needs, some are shy and afraid, or they know they will be rejected. Others seek out the pleasures that they do not get from a regular partner. There is nothing strange about an interest in anal sex, especially on the part of guys. It is in their nature to subdue a woman and to want a lot of sex, and they always put variety at the top of their priority list in intimacy. For them, ass penetration is something new and incomparable. The sensations are different, the emotions soar to the skies, the erection is immediately rock hard, the ejaculation is abundant and vivid.
Even sexologists and psychologists do not see anything surprising in the desire to possess a woman from different sides, if it does not go beyond the norm and does not overpower the classic. Some males, after trying a lady in the ass, switch over to this kind of activity only, rejecting oral caresses and vaginal penetration. Here we can already talk about deviations! Why does this happen? What’s going on in their heads? So, here are 10 reasons why men want to have anal sex only.
Suppressing women through sex
Virtually all men tend to be dominant in their relationships with women, and they express their power through bed. Some high-ranking bossy males know no boundaries and do not even want to hear about restricting their rights to possess their females’ bodies. The more such an individual “humiliates” her, the more he subdues her and binds her to himself. This is psychology. Individuals consciously repress a woman using perfected algorithms and thinking that only in a state of puppet she will belong to him and experience universal happiness next to a strong representative of male caste.
I want other pleasures
What does it feel like when a man’s cock enters a tight asshole? A very tight squeeze of the head, which is insanely pleasurable. Have you noticed that in many of the girls’ complaints about their partners there is a clause about problems after childbirth? Most likely, vaginal penetration loses its appeal in a man’s eyes due to vaginal distension and a change in the lady’s own behaviour.
Sometimes anal sex is desired by those who have been married for a long time and have been sleeping with the same woman for many years. Passion has waned, emotions are not the same, excitement is close to zero. The sour husband tries to shake things up and put a twist on the established pattern of bedding. And then the idea drags on…
Special intimacy
Love in the ass brings not only new physical sensations, but also completely different emotions. It is a greater intimacy, a spiritual connection, a new threshold of trust and acceptance of each other. Only some guys get so caught up in the newly emerged facets of sexual reality that other sexual patterns are no longer appealing.
A penchant for BDSM or a love of violence
Someone embodies his tendency towards violence and diktat in a BDSM relationship, where both partners are content. One wants to humiliate, the other wants to humiliate. That, ladies and gentlemen, is an idyll! Others do not immediately find their way and try to solve unusual psychological needs through the pain of a loved one. In fact, they are moral and often physiological sadists. The conjunction of “sex pain” gives them enormous pleasure. This is an unusual sexual activity, obviously going beyond the norm, that is why one can hardly overcome the desire of this type to screw their woman only in the ass with arguments of reason.
Pathology of sexual preference
Do you know what sexual deviance or perversion is? It is a particular craving for very unconventional types of sex. When a person wants only anal or only cross-dressing sex, it is a perversion. It is often caused by mental illness, brain disorders, encephalopathy, etc. If your husband insists and aggressively demands only anal sex, often refusing classical vaginal and oral intercourse, you should take him to a doctor. This is an abnormality!
Latent homosexuality
When a man feels attracted to people of his own sex, but consciously suppresses all urges to establish such relationships and deliberately refuses them, the inner self rebels. The man remains unsatisfied on a permanent basis. His needs are subverted and belittled, not expressed in real actions, so he tries at least to realize the desires that torment him. Having anal sex with your girlfriend or wife is ideal for the latent homosexual.
Male sexual decline
Decreased production of male sex hormones at a certain age and erectile dysfunction put a man in a state of confusion. He tries to compensate for his coming inability to have sex with new experiences or even perversions. Some are attracted to the young, whose body would excite even a dead man, while others are attracted to other forms of sex. This often happens between the age of 40 and 50.
Specific male development
When a guy’s genetic make-up is solidified, i.e. he goes through all the stages of male-type behaviour through some difficulties, hardships, life situations, then sexual perversions occur less frequently. If, however, the inner psychological filling of a particular male personality has suffered at some stage, cravings for perversions and unusual predilections arise. Men growing up in big cities, where it is difficult to become a “real” male because of the difficult social conditions in the city, suffer the most. So much for the results of their pampering – men’s sexuality suffers a setback!
The unfulfilled leader and the overbearing male
Some males aspire to power so tenaciously and forcefully that defeat in this area kills them morally. In essence, dominating a woman in this case is an attempt to rehabilitate one’s dominance and managerial streak. There are a lot of managers in today’s society, and it’s very stimulating to want to put yourself forward for such a position. Unfortunately, there are few real genetic rulers of the world. A man is solving all his failures in professional sphere through a woman with such non-standard types of love. In fact, he takes revenge for his own failure.
Victims of modernity and depravity
Another type of man with nuanced sexual predilections can be identified among lovers of modern propaganda. They’ve just watched porn videos where every scene is hard anal and suction to the throat, with the actresses moaning realistically with pleasure as if they were cumming ten times in one anal act. After such visuals it’s hard to believe his wife that it hurts in the ass with a cock. Such provocations make a man go mad, especially not getting what he wants.
We have named the main reasons why men want anal sex, and sometimes only demand it. There are always several factors that may overlap in one man, making the situation even more complicated!
What to do if a guy only wants anal sex
There is bound to be conflict between a man and a woman if the standard sexual pattern changes drastically, and one of the couple is not happy with this. In this case we see a conflict of physiology (the woman is in pain because of the constant invasion of the anus) and psychology (the husband wants the tactile stimuli that lead to a unique release over and over again). You could say there is a conflict between your body and his head. In this situation it is difficult and sometimes impossible to find a compromise. What to do and what to do if a man is constantly demanding anal sex?
To understand the reasons for his behaviour
Why does a guy mainly want to pound you in the ass? There are two possibilities here: physical preference, i.e. pleasant sensations that outshine previous experiences, or latent orientation preferences, i.e. your boyfriend is a potential “gay”. This is what you should dance from. The second option is less promising, because his vagina is likely to be unpleasant for him, at the very least, and he has already “raped” himself many times in the name of marriage and childbirth when he had vaginal sex with you.
Refuse and bide your time
There is an opinion that with constant rejection the desire can disappear – one will simply burn out. It is unlikely that your spouse will carry the passion and lust for your anus for 20 years if it is a normal need for variety. But when your partner tries to solve psychological problems through anal sex, such as repressing women or satisfying bisexual/homosexual needs, prolonged attacks are very likely.
Passively resist
What does passive resistance look like in this issue? It is almost a golden mean. We recommend satisfying one out of his 10 requests if you are willing to endure the discomfort for the sake of the person you love. Of course, this is a kind of concession, but there are nuances here. Exert psychological pressure on him after each anal penetration: talk about your pains and worries in all kinds of colours, including how difficult it is to go to the toilet. This should be your main prerequisite! You realise his desire and he provides you with “ears” as compensation. Can he put up with brainwashing for the sake of his beloved, just like you put up with the pain?
Offer your husband anal intercourse
Often enough, men want to fuck a girl in the ass, but they are not ready to experiment with this kind of opening. Offer to have sex with him in the ass, where he accepts. If he agrees to this action, try to imitate full penetration of the penis – just as you would with you. The phallus should be the same size as your spouse’s penis. Do not bother with lubrication and development of the anus, but simply reproduce the average approach to this art in the best male traditions: get in and go bang! And offer to do it again every day in a persistent manner, assuring him that the pain is all his imagination and his unwillingness to make you feel good.
Strongly refuse and explain the reason
Tell your husband about the consequences of anal sex: cracks, haemorrhoids, weakened sphincter, which will cause you to see not only soiled pants and gas incontinence, but also something smelly. Do you want to shit on the bus or at work? He won’t do it, you will! If your anal intercourse is not regular and you will hardly suffer this fate, but the dominance of anal in your bed will make you a semi-invalid – you can sew up your ass or not sew it up, but you will stink a mile away.
Suture the vagina
Is your husband asking for anal because your vagina is incomplete? Well, there are some women who are willing to have their vaginas sutured to make it as narrow as it was before they had children. The main thing is not to lose the ring on your finger and the valuable “bruise” in your passport! Are you, by any chance, one of them?
Yes, a man’s love of anal sex can be the cause of a divorce. By rigidly denying him this pleasure, be prepared for a negative outcome. If a divorce and finding a new partner with similar views on sexual relations is not for you, you have to find a compromise in which you try to relax and have fun by asking your husband to be very careful and he, in turn, tries to adjust to other types of sex so that there is a middle ground. Before penetrating your ass, let him read an article on how to properly introduce a woman to the world of anal. Good sex and mutual understanding are only possible when both partners enjoy it!
